Wellness Wednesday- Self Forgiveness

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Hello Beautiful Souls, It’s meee, Jessica!

Hopefully you got a laugh and get the movie reference (The Hot Chick) but if not disregard, Theresa here ✨

I wanted to start out on a light note because this Wellness Wednesday is going to hit some heart strings. If you come here and are apart of our space, we often have synchronicities and loud messages coming through that we can all relate to. This weeks is forgiveness. Forgiveness towards others that have done us wrong and treated us in ways we feel we did not deserve. Forgiveness towards ourselves for letting things happen, not knowing any better. Forgiveness for being the one who did others wrong. We are all human. I just got out of my monthly session with Amy (yes, I still see her and extremely grateful for the ability to implement this as part of my regular self care) but felt this rock in my heart and this weird density and congestion in my calves. As she was working her magic I just kept hearing and feeling “you hurt me!” Over and over and over again. Certain someone’s who have hurt me in the past came in mind. But also to my surprise, past versions of myself were also yelling this at me. For not keeping myself safe. For not doing better, for not being better.

This has also come up in the office, between staff members, clients, friends. We are all so hard on ourselves, and it shows in our bodies and our hearts.

Self-forgiveness is a powerful process of releasing guilt, shame, and regret, allowing you to move forward with greater peace. It’s not about excusing past actions, but acknowledging your humanity and learning from your mistakes. Holding onto guilt can manifest physically in the body, expressed through muscle tension, shallow breathing, depression, anxiety, etc. When you begin to forgive yourself, your body starts to relax—your muscles loosen, your breath deepens, and your overall sense of well-being improves.

To begin the journey of forgiveness and self-forgiveness, start by being aware—acknowledge the pain and the emotions tied to your actions or others without judgment. The hardest part is admitting we have been deeply hurt. Betrayed. Abandoned. Practice compassion. Treat yourself with the same kindness you would offer a friend or loved one. Use mindful techniques like journaling or deep breathing to process and release the emotional charge, paying attention to how your body and heart responds. Honor forgiveness by committing to grow and choosing to do better and move forward.

Easier said than done. If you need support sitting and learning about how this is manifesting in your life, please come see me, Amy, Monique. We are all here for you. I am so passionate about this work. I have devoted my life path to exploring the deep waters because I believe we deserve to live our healthiest best lives. Sometimes that means exploring the dark and shadows.