Why Off Campus is so much more than a show about hot hockey players – it’s changing the conversation around healthy sexuality and vulnerability – and I’m HERE FOR IT.
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Informed Consent – This is such a nuanced and important conversation and yes, the show displays a considerable amount of sexuality outside the context of marriage so I’m shelving that aspect of this to focus on the positives that are worth further discussion. For those of you who may not have heard of the show that has exploded onto the scene, Off Campus is a college show that is opening up some very insightful and valuable topics around healthy relationships. Currently on Amazon Prime.⭐⭐⭐⭐⭐I have done quite a bit of content around informed consent, both in relationships and also within context of healthcare. This show is living it out in deep and surprisingly high EQ ways.
1) They prioritize and discuss several times the #1 Key to a woman’s pleasure – TRUST – Yep – read that again – friend to friend, 2 guys are having a serious conversation about a new interest he has and that is his friend’s Pro Tip for ensuring she has a good experience. Bonus***throughout the show, the emphasis is on the female’s experience. Not only do they discuss trust, they repeatedly address various ways to make the female characters feel safe, inherently building trust and safety into any intimate experience. Click HERE for one of the best clips of the WHOLE season!
*warning – you might get hooked*
2) They specifically name vulnerability, the value of it and how there is nothing more vulnerable than having an orgasm. These are long overdue conversations and if it takes a super trendy show to help bring it to light, then so be it. This repeats several times throughout the show in different ways around multiple aspects of relationships.
3) They discuss sexual trauma. It brings to light one of the character’s former rape, her subsequent trauma, her reputation being destroyed, the impact on her family, the impact on her ability to connect with someone in a positive way sexually due to the previous trauma. This is acknowledged, given space, honored and respected. It is named in a way that truly allows for healing.
4) The surprise you don’t see right away but feel instantly – NO Mean Girls! The girls aren’t competing with each other. Full stop. Not for guys, not for grades, not for theatre performances, not for attention. The support is next level.
Some added bonuses:
- They hand the girls a sealed can at a party so she can feel safe and know her drink hasn’t been tampered with.
- The “good guys” cheer the girls on to greater success and have no issues wanting them to grow, blossom and have the spotlight.
- Honest conversations around feelings, insecurities and struggles – not games and egos.
- There are honestly some profound parenting and coaching moments that also show respectful handling of conflict and expectations, emotional intelligence, encouraging passions and doing things for the right reasons.
- Family trauma, drama and domestic violence is another theme addressed in a healthy and impactful way!
Ok so this is JUST a TV show but I can’t emphasize how much these conversations are so overdue – I hear them from clients all day every day in related contexts, struggles with intimacy, issues with their spouses, communication, toxic relationships. Not understanding their own trauma or how to heal, dealing with family influences on yourself and on your relationship – the list goes on because it’s life. And they do an amazing job of bringing those deeper aspects of real life into very entertaining fiction.
Please let us know your thoughts on the show if you have watched or go watch.
Blessings,
Amy and the MOT family
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