Hello Again, Moment of Truth Collective ✨ Theresa here for another Wellness Wednesday ⚡How is everyone doing? Have cycles been really loud?? Are they so in your face that you can’t ignore it if you tried? We are in the middle of eclipse season. Whether you follow astrology or not, there is no denying that the energy has been weird. BUT I LOVE IT! I am in no exception, I am right in here in it to. Right where it hits you in the gut! So what are we learning??
Last week my partner and I got in a huge blow out. He called me out and held me accountable (as he does, love him) and told me I have been focusing too much on what is wrong. What he does wrong. What I do wrong. Guilty. “Oh my God, I am my mother,” were the thoughts that came to my mind. I love my mother very much, but there are cycles I am here to break. My mother was highly critical of me growing up. She was highly critical in general. But as a child we internalize these things and when we are an adult with internal dialogue speaking poorly to ourselves and projecting that onto the ones we love. If you work with me I’m sure you think, “Theresa, you are the furthest from judgmental and critical!” Yes, I see through such a lens of love and compassion when it comes to clients and strangers. But when it comes to intimate relationships or myself, there is a much different dialogue that has been going on.
Now that I am in my thrive era, I have come to understand to not to internalize everything and take everything so freaking personally. I can see my mom just spoke to me in ways she spoke to herself. It is much more clear to me now more than ever how people can only meet us as deeply as they have met themselves. We shouldn’t take that so personally or hold onto the things that don’t feel good anymore.
When my partner called me out on this I started to think about this and how hard I have been on myself and people I love. How when clients or friends speak to me about self criticism and judgment, we are our own worst critic.
I then went down a rabbit hole of how much time and energy we give to the details that DON’T matter. You’re most likely a woman if you’re reading this (and if not, HAPPY to have you here!) But as women we can all agree we do this stupid thing where our heads are literally a cob web of unimportant details that we stress out about keeping us in this hole of worry. Men are much better at compartmentalizing. I used to get angry and envy this about men but now can say I truly admire that. Present creatures. Maybe we can learn something from them.
| Once my partner and I both cooled down I decided to do something different. I wrote him a letter on everything he has done right since we connected with one another. It brought a lot of love and gratitude in my heart once I started writing. I know I need to do this practice for myself, but then I started writing about the people closest to me and focusing on what they have been doing right, understanding that we really are all doing our best. Makes me wonder, as a collective, what kind of miracles would happen if we shifted our focus to what is going right. I invite you (especially during this season when all our shadows are in our face) to shine some light on what is going right, what have you been doing right? What progress have you made? Even if the best thing you can think of is “I’m doing my best.” Think of yourself as 8 year old you and look at how you have been speaking to yourself. Kind of hits different through that lens? This period is quite transformative. Be intentional of what you are spending your time and energy on. Be kind. Be compassionate. Be love. The world needs more of it. |
| As Always, Much Love,Theresa and the Moment of Truth Team 💕 |
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