Wellness Wednesday- What Sparks Romance for you?

Hey MOT Family – You may have noticed a bit of a theme with some of my recent blog posts and a few Wellness Wednesdays – I’m often talking about either the nervous system or sex – well today is BOTH!

Amy here and I’ve noticed (and of course vetted it with many of you) that the state of my nervous system strongly plays into my desire and whether or not I’m in the “mood” AND whether or not I can reach orgasm. So I started paying attention to what else is affecting my yes and no in the bedroom and my overall experience! You know I like experiments. Here are some things I’ve noticed that negatively affect me:

• Feeling rushed – not to orgasm – just in life. Like we had dinner and watched TV then trying to talk and walking upstairs and getting undressed and in bed and the transition is Just. Too. Fast. And it’s not him, it’s me – just “life-ing and adulting” along.
• If I’m too hot or too cold – my basic physical state
• Physical pain – this might seem obvious but even muscle soreness from a workout can limit which position feels good

Now for some of the things that positively affect me at different times.

• If I’ve worked out and feeling good about myself
• Putting on country music – yep it’s our thing 
• Knowing I’ve showered, shaved and feel clean
• Christmas lights – don’t act surprised. Candles aren’t really my thing but last year I decided to leave up the garland over our dresser that is lit with white lights. I love it and it feels romantic to me.

So that’s the key – what changes how you feel? If you’ve ever discussed that with me, you may have heard me talk about Accelerators and Brakes. You and your partner need to figure out what hits your accelerators and how to take things off your brakes. Often, especially for women, it’s far more important to take things off your brakes. 

Ok guys – I’ve basically told you my innermost details from my bedroom – ok not ALL but jeesh!

So have the conversation – and I’d love to hear what you discover removes some of those brakes. It can often be something as simple as a little time alone. We all need to decompress. Orgasm and intimacy are the most vulnerable forms of letting go and trusting. 

 Happy discovering!

 Amy and the MOT team